Saturday, November 3, 2012

No H8 in the Nail Blogger Community


You might have noticed the new image on my sidebar. You’ll probably be seeing more of it on other blogs, it was originated here and as other people have discussed the events leading up to my feeling the need to add this simple image to my sidebar, I think The Crumpet sums it up perfectly here, so if you’d like to read up on what I’m upset about you can check out her blog. It’s enough for me to say here that I do not approve of anyone trying to make other’s feel bad for not having perfect nails, or perfect cuticles.

In fact one of my mantra’s has been “There’s no such thing as a PERFECT manicure” so I am not as hard on myself about a smudge or ding anymore. I’ve realized you can end up messing up five good nails when trying to fix one or two messed up ones, and that just stinks. At any rate, I simply want to say here that I’ve made some statements on the Polishing Facebook groups I’m part of, about how upset this made me, and I stand by those comments. No one has the right to spread hate under the guise of humor. And if I didn’t speak up about it, I would feel as if I was silently condoning that hateful, bullying opinion of others.

Yes, it’s all about opinions, and whether we like it or admit it or not, words can and DO have the power to hurt. It’s not right, to cast a wide net, even if you say later that you’re trying to be funny, to say you only want to see good manicures, and that others who don’t live up to your unstated standards shouldn’t ‘share their efforts.’ That is hateful and in my opinion, bullies a lot of us out here in Nail Blogger land that aren't hurting people if we share manicures that aren't perfect. While I am sure this whole fiasco has upset a lot of nail bloggers, I am also sure it will prevent more from starting up then it will encourage or 'entertain.'

Now I understand the use of Black or Dark Humor, and to me? Again my opinion here, this person’s jabs were not Black or Dark humor, and that’s why I have made the comments I have elsewhere and here on my blog. I am PROUD to be part of this mostly loving and delightful community, but as with any place in the world online or in real life, it takes all kinds to make up a community. That’s not to say we shouldn’t speak up when we see something we have a problem with though. Stand up against hate groups. I feel sorry for the people who didn’t give it enough thought about the repercussions of being a part of this group I won’t name here, but I think that it’s only reasonable to think that many people would feel they were being slighted and would have their feelings hurt.

I will close with this, remember when a certain nail polish company stole blogger’s photos, removed the watermarks and put them on a display recently? Did we sit around and TAKE that? No, we stood up TOGETHER and got them to stop and admit their wrongdoing. I am proud of this community for doing that then and I am proud of it again for standing up against this hate group. We cannot allow people to sling hate around as humor, it opens a door to a dark place we definitely do not want to go. I thank you for your time in reading all of this and even if you just skipped to the bottom, hey, you all ROCK and I appreciate every one of you who’ve followed, commented or even just checked out Nail Soup in the year and a half I’ve been blogging. Feel free to leave a link to a No H8 entry on your blog in the comments, I look forward to seeing more blogger's thoughts on this subject. Thank you, and take care.

6 comments:

  1. What a succinct post, well done! I posted about this also here: http://pishposhandpolish.blogspot.co.uk/2012/11/h8ers-gonna-h8-no-thanks.html Thanks for supporting no H8

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    1. Thanks kerrie! I totally agree with your post, especially about the reason I blog, it's because I LOVE polish and to share my journey manicuring, the good, the bad and the ugly. :) Thank you for supporting No H8 too! And for sharing your link! :)

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  2. Whoa! OMG! Someone actually went there!

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    1. I know, pretty disappointing to see isn't it?

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  3. I know I'm way late to the party, but this is really well said.

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    1. Thank you UKNailRunner, that's kind of you to say, I spoke from the heart here and it's night to know it was appreciated.

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